After my blog, 'The Road to Burn-Out', I received an email from a friend which read:"Brenda, I just read your blog, as I always do when I do payroll, as it’s right above my payroll calculator on my favourites list. I’ve been worried about you because you looked stressed the last couple of times we met. I hadn’t made the time to check up on you in our crazy life – shame on me."
I too know all about a crazy life and not checking in on my friends - guilty as charged. But with my renewed focus on a slowdown life, I'm hoping to change that. I read some wise words recently that said when we lie on our sick bed or on our death bed, it is not our colleagues or clients that will gather around us but our family and friends. Yet I consistently make my work more important than my friends and my family. Slowly, I'm changing that.
I received a caring and probing email from one of my brothers which came just days after my burn-out blog. It read: "Hi Sis, Wondering what’s up? You seem very quiet these days."
And quiet I have been, but the wrong kind of quiet: the withdrawn-don't-talk-to-me kind of quiet. Now I am practising the calm-restorative kind of quiet. And it is working. I want to write more blogs on the changes I have made so that one day, and there will be a one day, when I go off kilter again I can remind myself how to recalibrate. Life is a journey, a process, a continual discovery.
In the suppportive words of my sage friend, Morrie: "The journey of the heart and taking time to live in the moment is a precious gift. That’s why it is called a “present”. It was great to read your blog again."
It was great to write it.
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